Remembering how far you’ve come

Despite the title of this post, I am absolutely cr@p at doing this with myself. I’m always trying to bolster other people up, encourage them and help them (to the point that I know I irritate people in my eagerness!), yet I struggle to do the same for myself. When you think you are failing, falling behind or doing badly, it really helps to see how far you’ve come and get a little perspective. Tomorrow is the 2-year anniversary of Kilimanjaro (my minor hell!) and also the 2-year anniversary of me having an epiphany and sorting my sh*t out.

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You see, 2 years ago today I was overweight, unfit, and unhappy with myself. You can read more about my journey over on a guest post I did for Circus Mum here. Since then I’ve overcome many barriers, including my fear of heights, starting up my own business, setting up a running club, and smashed minutes of my running times (17 minutes of my 10k and 20 minutes off my 5k times), but I’m still guilty of beating myself up when I don’t achieve something. I think it’s all part of the Western society’s tendency to measure success on how much money you make and how much you achieve, not on happiness. I know one day I will learn to stop beating myself up and appreciating how far I’ve come, until then I will make a point of reminding myself as often as I can by rereading that post and being proud!

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How do you overcome the temptation to be too hard on yourself? Do you have any tips?

What prompted me to write this post is that I’m currently festering at home feeling sorry for myself with a sore throat unable to take part in a 40k trail run! πŸ™‚

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14 thoughts on “Remembering how far you’ve come

  1. Awesome work – I can’t actually even believe that first pic was you – you look amazing such a transformation! The fact that you have the biggest smile on your face now is the best bit of it all.
    You’ve achieved so much you should be so proud of yourself and give yourself a lot more credit!
    I think you’re right about it being a society thing and I do find that in society lately we also spend so much time comparing our journey to others that it’s sometimes hard to appreciate how far you’ve come I know I am seriously guilty of this!
    x

    • Ah thank you! Lots of people say that. I’ve lost 3.5 stone since then. πŸ™‚ I am happier – but every so often I slip into the negative mindset. It’s a tough cycle to break sometimes.

  2. Well done to you on achieving so much in such a short space of time! Don’t be hard on yourself, keep setting yourself attainable goals, never stop setting new goals. The only way I stop being hard on myself is by trying to imagine I was someone else looking at my life but I’m also very fortunate to have a husband who admires all my efforts, that really helps.

    • Thank you! Thats a god tip and something I need to do. I also have a very supportive boyfriend, but I still go through phases where I don’t even believe what he says! πŸ™‚

    • I’m always happy when I achieve things, but very often it’s on to the next thing when I think i should sit back and bask a little longer in the glory. πŸ™‚

  3. Sorry to have missed meeting you yesterday , let’s hope you’re throat heals quickly. And thank you for sharing your story through Circus Mums – I also decided to get fit when I signed up for Kili, and never made it to the summit. I’d also love to take a group of women up Jbel Toubkal some day soon…… Your story is very inspirational, I hope you’ll consider adding some of your posts to the WISH women blog hop as I think others would gain a lot from you too πŸ™‚
    Your story is truly inspirational, maybe that should remain your focus on your past. It’s great that you’ve come a long way, and you should be proud of that, but would it matter if you hadn’t? It’s what you do today that counts – what’s going to be your next challenge? If you’re feeling ill that could just be getting through the day with a smile on your face, or it could be your next mountain.
    Let others bask in your glory while you keep moving forward!

    • You are so right – I need to keep moving forward. I’m normally so good at this, but lately I’ve been wallowing. I suppose I’m not very good at being ill. πŸ™‚ I would love to do a post for WISH. I could update that story even further as I wrote that a log while ago now and a lot has changed since then. πŸ™‚

  4. Ooh I hope you’re feeling a lot better Sian (both physically, and emotionally) πŸ™‚ I can definitely see why you felt sad on missing out on an event you’ve had in the calendar for quite the while, I would have done too! But at the end of the day, this was an unpredictable situation so you mustn’t blame yourself for being… human! And at the end of the day, transformation (and what an amazing one it is!) aside, you are still you and who you should be proud of πŸ™‚

    • ah thanks sweetie! I’m ok – I actually think it was a blessing in disguise as 40k would probably have resulted in injury and put my hopes of a sub 2h half out of the window. πŸ™‚ I am just (like most runners/fitness freaks) rubbish at being ill! x

  5. You look great, so don’t be too hard on your self. We all have that little voice in our head that tells us we’re crap. You just have to try and ignore it and move on.
    Going out for a run is a great way to clear my head. I hardly ever feel worse after a run. Running cures so many of life’s problems!
    It does suck to miss a race, but there will be plenty more races run.

  6. Honestly I am blown away, I didn’t realise that you had a ‘former self’ I assumed that you were one of those beautiful, gifted by nature people. You really are in a good position to help others, and well done. Absolutely fantastic! x

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